Tuesday, 4 April 2017

How Does Blogging Affect Our Self-Confidence?








I've always said that my blog and being so immersed in the blogosphere has helped my self-confidence immensely and for the most part, that's true. Before I created Salt and Chic I had barely any confidence and I don't just mean about my appearance. I would struggle to talk to new people, would feel anxious at the mere thought of going places by myself and I never for one second thought I was good enough to achieve much at all. Since then, I've worked with huge brands, modelled for big campaigns, travelled abroad alone and achieved things I could have only dreamed of and in that sense, blogging myself and seeing other bloggers achieve amazing things too has completely helped my self-confidence in immeasurable ways. But what about body confidence? What about the way blogging affects or self-esteem, particularly in relation to our looks?

VENICE CROPPED SWEATSHIRT: ZARA / OVERSIZED WHITE SHIRT: TOPSHOP / RIPPED SKINNY JEANS: ASOS / *WATCH: c/o ELIE BEAUMONT / *BLACK ANKLE BOOTS: c/o RAID FOOTWEAR / *CHAKRA BRACELET: c/o DAISY LONDON / *PINK BACKPACK: c/o NEW LOOK 







Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love blogging and being part of the blogging community but there are times that I worry about it. We're bombarded with perfect photos of perfect looking people with perfect looking skin and clothes and homes and bags and everything else, so much so that no matter how hard I try, no matter how nice I look or well I do my make-up, I wonder "am I enough?" The effortlessly beautiful street style photos, the polished Instagram feeds and the designer bags, the photoshopped faces and the beautiful, tall, thin women who are everywhere inspire me beyond belief but there are days where I just totally destroy myself. I look at my photos and no matter how good I looked hat day I'll find a fault. My hair is flicking up there. I look like I have no eyelashes. You can see my wonky tooth. I look really small there. The list of faults I find with myself is endless and I always wonder: would I do this if I didn't blog? If I didn't study hundreds of different photos of myself every day? If I didn't have a reason to compare myself to the other bloggers out there? 

It worries me that these days, blogs have become so polished they're basically like flicking through the same polished magazines that line our shelves and give us unrealistic expectations and if that's how your blog is then that's okay. I've always said I have nothing but support for those who love designer things etc etc and that's something for another post but the shift that we have seen in blogging in past year or so has been phenomenal. Gone are the days of taking photos in your bedroom on a tripod and simply adjusting the brightness or writing about monthly empties. We all crave the street style photos that could grace the pages of Vogue and I know I'll never have them. I live in a shitty area and don't have pretty streets and I don't have flawless skin or the most expensive clothes but does that make me any less of a blogger? Sometimes, I feel like it does. Others it doesn't/ But my worry is that as bloggers we scrutinise every cell in our body, comparing it to others and I have no doubt that those who we compare ourselves to, compare themselves to others and feel  the same in a vicious circle of low body and self-confidence. 

What do you think? Is blogging good or bad for the self-esteem?

Amy x
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9 comments

  1. You look absolutely gorgeous! I totally love this look!

    xoxo

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  2. Blogging exerts so much pressure to look and behave in a certain way, it's like we almost have to be photo ready just in case the opportunity for a cute outfit pic is there- and that's not healthy. To be honest, I don't really follow many well-established bloggers on instagram because again, it's so detrimental seeing someone looking perfect in the £560 gucci t-shirt and givenchy antigona bag whilst you're sat at home struggling with your money etc. And then there's the whole comparison game which is the worst thing ever and so so unhealthy, "why can't my blog look like hers?", "I wish I could afford that", "my instagram feed is shit compared to hers" Although the blogging community is supposed to be the most supportive, sometimes it can get overwhelming and in those times it's just best to log off and not expose yourself to these idealised photos/instagram accounts/blogs. You made some really good point in this post :)

    Dalal .. monochromedaisies.blogspot.com

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  3. This is a fantastic post. I actually just wrote a similar post about the ways in which blogging has negatively affected my self-confidence. I think that it can be different for everyone, but I personally get disappointed when seeing posts that essentially tell me how to run my blog. However, I think blogging still does have its positives - I definitely feel more confident to wear bold makeup or daring fashion.

    Cassie | blushandfairydust.blogspot.com

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  4. Such a good post Amy, and loving the outfit! Can totally see where your coming from, there are so many positives in blogging but a few negatives too, it's hard sometimes!xx

    Lucy x | lucy-cole.co.uk

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  5. I completely understand where you're coming from! Starting to blog definitely raised my confidence levels, but seeing so many amazing bloggers on the blogosphere is so daunting. It's almost as if I know I'll never be good enough because there's no way I'll ever look like them and it's somewhat disheartening. No matter how well my blog progresses it's never 'as good' as someone else's. In a way, it's really nice to hear someone I look up to in the blogosphere say they have these similar insecurities. I suppose we should really stop comparing our blogs and instagrams to others and just purely use it as a platform to express ourselves and not be comparative. Great post, thank you so much for sharing xx

    |Georgia Megan|

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  6. This was such a good read and I can totally relate! I too compare myself to others, criticise photos where my hair doesn't look done, wish that I was much slimmer because my favourite blogger is slimmer, or wish that I could afford designer things every month like some do. But on the other hand, blogging has made me much more confident, even if i do doubt myself sometimes.

    Emma at www.collagemepretty.com

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  7. I go through ups and downs! Sometimes it makes me feel confident and great, and other times I'm sent into a crippling state of despair haha xx

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  8. Completely agree with this. Blogging has helped my self-confidence in so many ways, but it has evolved so much in such a short time, and the standard of blogs has risen dramatically that sometimes I feel like I can't really call myself a 'blogger'! Love the outfit and reading this x

    Summer, www.thetwinswardrobe.com

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  9. I've been blogging for quite some time at http://medicalschoolroadtrip.blogspot.com. I've never been serious about it but after quitting medical school, I realised that blogging is something I actually want to do. I am planning to revamp/rebrand my blog and I want to take it seriously this time. Do you have any tips? thank you very much. :)

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