Thursday, 15 December 2016

Being Selfish In 2017


It's the end of another year and no matter how many of you are tired of seeing the "new year, new me" statuses (which I actually see more complaints about than I do statuses), it's one of the times we reflect on the past twelve months. We think about the good things that have happened to us over the year and the things we have achieved but equally we think about the bad things and the bad choices we've made.

I can honestly say that this year has been one of the worst ever. I've done some amazing things and I've been incredibly lucky to have seen so much of the world, all whilst graduating with a 2:1 Law Degree from Durham University and progressing more than ever with my blog. I'm so grateful and I've worked damn hard for everything I've achieved this year but on the whole, I've made some pretty bad decisions and I've been incredibly unhappy. I've had some really tough times, especially over the past few months and as I'm not one to shout about my problems, I haven't really spoken about it on social media and it's made me realise that things may not always be how they appear online. I look at beautiful bloggers and influencers on Instagram and absolutely envy them, their perfect lives, their relationships and their travels but we never know the realities of what people are going through and they are under no obligation to tell us either. I haven't shared any of my personal life on social media and I'll be honest and say that I've found it difficult, especially considering that social media and having an online presence is such a huge part of my life. I feel like my channels have suffered, my content has suffered and my work has suffered and looking back on the year, particularly the latter half, I just wish I'd done things for me earlier and that's what I've decided 2017 is going to be all about. 
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I've realised that sometimes you have to be selfish. We always talk about selfishness as if it's a bad trait, as if it's one of the worst things you can be and in some circumstances I would agree. However, recently I've felt that I haven't been selfish enough and my happiness has been compromised because of it. I want 2017 to be my year, the year in which I seize opportunities that come my way instead of worrying about other people and holding myself back. I want to better myself and most of all I want to leave behind a lot of the shit I've put up with in 2016 and stop being so bloody hard on myself. Being selfish isn't necessarily a bad thing and actually not being selfish enough can be bad for you, as I've learned. I know a lot of people have had a really shitty 2016 and here's to hoping that we can all better ourselves in one way or another next year - there are better things on the way, we just have to get out there and get them for ourselves. 

I want 2017 to be my year and that's going to take some effort. I'm not going to sit around and mope and wait for good things to happen to me. I'm going to get out there, face my fears and try and get them. I'm going to stop feeling sorry for myself and do what I do best which is work my lil ass off and be sassy. 2016 is going down as one of the worst years in history on a personal level for many of us as well as on an international level (but let's not get into that right now!) and we need to make the effort to get 2017 to make up for it.

PLANT YOUR OWN GARDEN INSTEAD OF WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO BRING YOU FLOWERS.

What do you want from 2017?

Amy x
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15 comments

  1. I definitely agree with you in that it's sooooo important to be selfish, especially when people that you do a lot for are constantly disappointing you. All in all, 2016 was actually a pretty good year for me (obviously not for the world, though), and so in 2017, I'm going to try to capitalize on everything good I did this year and just try to be a better version of myself!

    xx Alyssa
    VISIONS OF NYC // @alyszsa

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  2. 100%! This year has been awful! I've made that pact to myself to be selfish but it's also very hard as it's in my nature to put other before me. One thing I will do is to take more risks and stop second guessing myself!

    Good luck for 2017 boo x

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  3. This is so important, you're completely right, we often think being selfish is terrible but sometimes its important to take care of yourself otherwise there's nothing you can offer to anyone else. It's sad to hear that you've had such a terrible year but great that you can recognise what you need to do to make yourself happy!

    I really hope 2017 is your year hun, unleash the sass and enjoy every bit!

    JosieVictoriaa // Fashion, Travel & Lifestyle

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  4. Congratulations on graduating with A 2:1 Law Degree from Durham University! Here's to not being so bloody hard on ourselves, to facing our fears, and to having a fabulous year 2017!
    P.S.: I like your YouTube videos too :)

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  5. totally with you on this, this years been one of my worst and am now on the verge of losing my job before christmas :( 2017 gonna be all about looking out for number 1! http://sarahinwonderlust.blogspot.co.uk/2016/12/christmas-party-make-up-at-gypsy-shrine.html

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  7. Too right, petal!

    Here's to making it happen!

    Gemma
    Faded Windmills

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  8. I totally agree, as I've gotten older i've realised you just have to be selfish to get what you want!

    Sophie x

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  9. Agree with that 100%!

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  10. Aw girl I hope you have an amazing 2017! I thought your year looked pretty damn incredible and well done on achieving so much :) I'm sure next year you're gonna smash it even more since you have a plan and you know what has to change.

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  11. I love this. Although I've had a lot of real highs this year, on the whole I've suffered a lot of lows too which have made this probably one of my worst years in a while. There's so much I want to learn upon and improve in 2017, it's definitely time to make this my year! Wishing you the best of luck with your goals for the new year lovely!

    Toni x
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  12. Absolutely love this post!
    You're only human and sometimes I feel bloggers such as yourself are put on a pedestal and "shouldn't" divulge into your personal problems on social media and "shouldn't" have opinions on controversial topics and it's really sad to see!

    Here's to a happy and healthy 2017 for you, Amy.

    Katie X
    www.ktramshaw.com

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  13. I have had the same thought, last year we did everything for everyone else even though I was ill and should have just said no to things rather than do it and then suffer later. I received my kidney transplant and I think the first thing that I said to my husband as soon as we got home after 5 days of being there we are going to do what we want in 2017- it's our year to be selfish and put our needs first. I had planned to do a similar blog my self. I have a wish list of all the fun things I have wanted to do and I am planning my year with our activities in the diary first then put others in around that.

    I'm not listening to people telling me, you should do this or you should do that! NO I'm doing it my way!!

    Mini New Yorker

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