Sunday, 2 October 2016

Don't Feed The Trolls









For me, the internet has been brilliant. Social media has opened so many doors for me, we have all of the information in the world at our very fingertips and we can connect with people from all around the world who we may not have crossed paths with otherwise. However, especially over the past few years, social media and the internet has shown a darker side, a side that all regular social media users will have encountered whether directly or indirectly and this dark side is becoming ever more present as time goes on. Of course, I'm talking about internet trolls.

This jacket is one of my favourite pieces in my wardrobe. You may remember it from my blog post with Pretty Little Thing and Virgin Trains a couple of weeks back and this was a post that I was immensely proud of. The photos in the post that Karl took of me were my favourite photos in a long time and that's such a big deal for me because normally I tear myself apart in my blog photos. I loved my outfit, loved how I looked and overall, I couldn't wait to share them on my social channels. However, after sharing what I would have called a "grunge" outfit on Twitter I was well and truly attacked by trolls. A young woman decided my outfit wasn't grunge enough and proceeded to attack me and my appearance over a series of tweets and when I responded, she shared my tweet on her own page which has a 90% following of just trolls, encouraging them to troll me. I'm not easily offended and have been trolled before but let me tell you when you're sitting alone in a hotel room with your notifications filling up from people telling you that you look "fucking horrendous", an "absolute state", a "load of shit" to name a few choice insults, it's not nice. 

BLACK CAMI DRESS (similar), STUDDED SANDALS: TOPSHOP / ROUND SUNGLASSES (similar): H&M / *BADGE OVERSIZED DENIM JACKET: c/o PRETTY LITTLE THING /




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Usually when I think of trolls, I think of the faceless accounts with eggs or memes as their profile pictures because they know that it's wrong to behave like that but over the past few months, I've realised this isn't always the case anymore. The trolls sending me these tweets were real accounts with selfies, friends, children, grown men and women who thought it was acceptable behaviour to bully and abuse people online. They laughed with their friends about it and quite frankly I think this evolution is terrifying. When people confronted them they said if we can't take criticism we should "get off social media", failing to realise that criticism and outright bullying are not the same. These people actively encouraged the anonymous troll accounts that were saying such terrible things to and about people I can't even bear to think about it. The one who started trolling me in the first place took pride in people blocking her because she had been so horrible to them. They were sexist, racist, ableist, homophobic and everything else you can think of and to think that they don't see anything wrong with what they're doing is just unfathomable. Or do they see something wrong with what they're doing? Do they do it because they themselves are unhappy? I don't know which one would be preferable.

Whatever their reasons, these people need to be stopped. I've reported accounts like this multiple times and Twitter has never ever responded. They've never been suspended, they've never had tweets deleted and social media bosses are quite frankly giving us the impression that they don't give a shit about the people using their sites for abusive behaviour. Instagram is more bothered about female nipples than abusive behaviour and that just says it all. That means it's left to us to deal with these horrible accounts and it's not okay. Luckily, I have thick skin and after feeling a bit miffed for a while, I'm okay but that's not the case for everyone and whether it's online or not, bullying and harassment to this extent can have lasting effects.

I've argued with trolls, I've insulted them back, I've been sarcastic in return and I've called them out. Nothing works and responding to them in any shape or form simply fuels them. They take pride in knowing they've upset you and I've found that ignoring them and blocking them is the best policy as they soon get bored and will leave you alone. However we shouldn't have to do this as it means we still have to read the horrific things said to us. Social media bosses need to do more. Of course, everyone endorses the right to freedom of speech but what about our rights not to be harassed or bullied? The troll culture is growing and we even have people made famous from it, such as Katie Hopkins (yes, she is a troll). They say it for the reaction and if we stop giving them that reaction, we can hopefully get rid of them for good.

What do you think about internet trolls? Have you ever been targeted?

Amy x
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  1. The internet makes people brave, when they're really not. I've only had a couple of people try to do it to me (personally and on my work accounts) and I've almost found it laughable that they've just tried to get a rise using the most petty things. We need to keep it positive! Congratulations on your win at Blogger's Blog awards yesterday, keep killing it xx

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    1. So true, I bet they wouldn't even dare look at someone wrong in real life let alone say the things they do! Thanks so much lovely, I still can't believe I won! xx

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  2. Loved everything about this post! Love the way you've styled this outfit and the embroidered denim jacket is to die for. Completely agree, and luckily I don't really experience any trolls/haters if you will but I can't stand when I see real people bringing down others. It's almost as if they forget we're real human beings with real feelings! xx

    http://styleandsplurging.com

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    1. Thanks so much lovely! That's so true, it's too easy to dehumanise people online when they look like they're just a Twitter account and not an actual person! x

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  3. love this post, the jacket suits you so much. i hate people like that who have nothing better to do than to bring people down, especially over social media - it's laughable. you're a babe, congrats on your bloggers blog award too. i knew you'd win!
    jen / velvet spring

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    1. Yup, I just don't understand why they would want to do it! Thanks so much lovely, I didn't expect to win at all so I'm over the moon! x

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  4. You look amazing in this post, I am in loooooove with your hair and also that dress.
    I cant stand trolls, I don't understand why they do it, what do they actually gain out of it? I've never really experienced it myself but I can imagine I might in the future, which is not a nice feeling but hopefully I will get through it ! :)

    http://sapphiresaysfashion.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. Thanks so much! It is difficult to ignore the comments but it's the best way to deal with it otherwise they just keep coming back! xx

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  5. this entire outfit is perfection, i wanna wear it myself!
    www.samanthamariko.com

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  6. I honestly can't understand why trolls, it's so mind boggling that people can actually lack any empathy. You look absolutely gorgeous in that post and in this one, and you're such a style inspiration! Hopefully you can think of how many people really admire your style and your blog instead <3

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    1. I know, it just baffles me how people can be so cruel! Thanks so much lovely, there are negative trolls but the amount of amazing and kind people always outweigh them!

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  7. I've luckily never been targeted by trolls, but I know so many people who have and who have been broken down to tears by some of the awful things these people say. I personally think it's down to jealousy and instead of celebrating the successes of those around us like yourself who have clearly worked hard to gain incredible opportunities with their blog/YouTube/etc., instead they try and pull people down. I really hope these people didn't get to you too much because I can assure you that you look incredible in these photos. I mean, the fact you won an award for best fashion blogger yesterday says a hell of a lot! xx

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    1. They're just despicable aren't they, some people can just be so cruel! Luckily I'm pretty thick skinned but I just can't believe how awful the internet can turn people xx

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  8. You look absolutely gorgeous, your Instagram feed tends to give me style envy! It's so horrible the 'morals' that some people hold these days. Trolling can be so hard to ignore but as you say the purpose of provoking you in the first place is because they want a reaction back. The best thing to do is to remind yourself that these people are not even worth a second of your time. The internet truly can be such a sad place at times.

    Toni x
    www.clarkecouture.co.uk

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    1. Thank you so much lovely! That's so true, the more you react the more they troll and that gives them what they want! Block and delete is the best option! x

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  9. I love, love, LOVE this outfit. So sorry to hear about this :( the internet is generally a fab place as you've mentioned. But it's sad that people feel the need to make vile comments about others to get some kind of enjoyment out of their own lives.
    Back when I did some Youtube stuff I had a few comments I'd rather I had never had the displeasure to read.
    I love your blog :) never stop. Keep your head held high as you say. Congrats on your award too again. So well deserved girl!

    Robyn x

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    1. Thanks so much lovely, it's true there are some awful people on the internet and it can be so hard to ignore them but it's the best way! x

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  10. I think it's great that you've addressed such a real and terrifying part of social media. I find it amazing, in the worst way possible, that people are comfortable saying things to fellow human beings -- often over things such as fashion, youtube videos, etc. It is even sicker that they enjoy their attempts at making other people upset.

    I actually got trolled after sticking up for a friend -- in turn I was told I need a nose job, etc. But quite frankly I love my nose and found it hilarious. I view it like this -- as long as they're clicking and viewing my content I have created, those hits are counted. So the joke is on them.

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  11. I think it's great that you've addressed such a real and terrifying part of social media. I find it amazing, in the worst way possible, that people are comfortable saying things to fellow human beings -- often over things such as fashion, youtube videos, etc. It is even sicker that they enjoy their attempts at making other people upset.

    I actually got trolled after sticking up for a friend -- in turn I was told I need a nose job, etc. But quite frankly I love my nose and found it hilarious. I view it like this -- as long as they're clicking and viewing my content I have created, those hits are counted. So the joke is on them.

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    1. Thanks so much! It's absolutely unbelievable how vicious the trolls can get on the internet and the worst thing is they think it's okay and that it's just how the internet works. So sorry you had to experience it but that's definitely the right way to think about it!

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  12. Love the jacket! You look so pretty!

    http://MARTASFASHIONDIARY.com/shop-the-trend-velvet/

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  13. I absolutely love that jacket on you! I've luckily never been targeted by trolls but I really can't believe how many there are and the things they think they can get away with. I'm hoping there'll be stricter ways of policing them in the future so that people can't get away with being nasty!
    Amy xx
    www.callmeamy.co.uk

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    1. Thanks so much Amy, I just can't believe that social media bosses still don't take it seriously and they just allow it to get worse every day! Block and delete is the best option for sure! x

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  14. That jacket is awesome and the dress is stunning on you , love the jewelry touches too! Although I've personally never been 'trolled' I've seen it happen to others and it's terrifying and awful. As you said, how on earth could someone just sit there behind a screen and type out absolutely cruel and hurtful things, and get away with it? I agree that social media bosses and platforms need to do more to stop it.

    Summer, www.thetwinswardrobe.com

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  15. This is a really interesting post and so much more needs to be done to stop it. It's so sad that social media can be a really dark place at times.

    Hannah | Oh January

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  16. Internet trolls make me so mad. It's hard enough to put yourself out there on a platform like YouTube or blogger/wordpress, and it can be so hard when you end up getting abuse for no reason! Lucky for me, as an itty bitty blogger, I haven't experienced any online trolls yet but I like to think my skin is a lot thicker than it was a few years ago and I'll be able to handle it. I think both Markiplier and Nibbles (both on YouTube) cover hate really well. Nibbles just deletes troll comments and Markiplier is kinda like, if they don't like you, fuck 'em, they're problem! I completely agree about criticism and bullying, there's a difference. It's like when people offer their opinion that's actually really nasty and they say, they're entitled to it. Fine, but why are you attacking these people with your opinion?! I just find it funny that most trolls wouldn't say boo to a goose in real life, and they must be pretty sad and empty inside if they get their kicks from shouting abuse at folk behind a computer screen. Great post, Amy, and I love your outfit! The little slip dress is so cute, it looks so 90's with the way you've styled it! xx

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  17. I completly agree with this! I have seen the horrific abuse in only the past few days over the ched Evans case, vile people all round who should face harassment charges.
    Keep going and trying not to respond I know it's hard
    Love always xxx

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