Tuesday, 27 September 2016

Learning To Embrace My Height






I'm a short ass. A shrimp. A midget. Tiny weeny. Fun sized. Petite. Whatever else people see appropriate to call me (fyi it is never appropriate to call me a shrimp or a midget.) I'm just under 5"3 and I'm short and it's something I've always struggled with since I was young girl. I wasn't always small. In primary school I was just of an average height and then I just....stopped growing. I've probably been the same height since I was around 14, no matter how many wishes I made to be 5'8 or how much I wanted to be "model height", my bones wouldn't get any longer and I stayed ay 5'3 and at the age of almost 23, I think my opportunity for a growth spurt has passed.


I'll be honest, I've always hated my height. Ever since I was younger I associated being tall with being beautiful and as a teenager and even a young adult, I always felt like a stumpy child next to a tall woman. I tore myself apart for my height, refused to wear certain things because I thought they "didn't suit me" because they were longer on me than they were on the 5'10 model on the website and I barely owned a pair of flats, never mind wore them. However, on my recent trip to Madeira, I took....flat shoes. *GASP*. This was something I'd never done before (hence ripping my feet apart in heels walking around Rome last year) and I felt great. 

PETITE MINI PINAFORE DRESS: TOPSHOP / *GREY T-SHIRT: c/o DAISY STREET (similar) / *CONVERSE TRAINERS / *FIORELLI BACKPACK / 





As I've grown older and matured, I've realised that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and not necessarily in the tall, skinny stereotype that most famous women are. Since beginning my blog, I've seen beauty everywhere. In the tallest of us to the shortest, in the skinniest to the curviest and in every skin colour, hair colour and anything else you can think of. I've learnt that just because that tall, thin woman over there is beautiful, that doesn't mean you aren't beautiful. You don't have to be pretty like them, you can be pretty like you even if you are the total opposite of what they are. It doesn't take anything away from you, and you don't have to take anything from them. 

The thing that annoys me is that people feel they can comment on your insecurities. My height has always been one of my biggest insecurities and I've realised that people feel entitled to comment on you, no matter what. Yeah, I can take jokes about things but they're not always jokes and when people call you things and point out your insecurities ("wow, you're so short!!!" *eye roll*) it can make me think about it for days. Am I really that small? Does it ruin the way I look? Should maybe I wear heels next time? No, no and NO. As I've matured, I've learnt that I can't change my height or the way I look, no matter how many stars I wish on or no matter how many imaginary inches I add on to my height (I spent years lying to myself that I was 5'4 until the nurse confirmed last month I was indeed just under 5'3) and that we should learn to stop criticising both ourselves and others.

I'm finally happy with my height. I don't pick myself apart for it, I don't take photos to try and make myself look taller anymore and I wear what I want, whether it's "too long" or "not right" or anything else. Sometimes I do look at those beautiful tall girls and think "omg why am I not tall?!" but then the grass is always greener isn't it? So many tall girls on Twitter have said how they wish they were small! I think the top and bottom of it is, we need to work on accepting ourselves and others. We're all different shapes, sizes, heights and weights and you know what? We can all be beautiful.

Amy x
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  1. I've always been insecure about my height too, still am. I'm barely five feet tall, and I still remember clearly during 8th grade that many of the guys in my class would tease me on how small or short I am. I just shrug it off infront of them, but deep inside, it hurts. I've tried drinking calciums, milk. etc to spurt my growth, but my body just does not want to grow! I've learnt to accept it now though. And as you said, everyone comes in different shapes and sizes and that is totally fine! Nothing wrong with that at all. I just wish people would understand that commenting on my height hurts more than anything in the world. Good for you to be brave enough to wear flats! I'm not brave enough to wear heels out and about as the one time I wore them, I couldn't walk properly the next day, haha!

    www.ashrealasitgets.blogspot.com

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    1. I was exactly the same, it's not nice when people comment on your insecurities even when they don't mean to offend you. My least favourite thing is when people say "wow you don't look your age, you look so much younger!" cause I find it so patronising!

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  2. I don't think you're short at all Amy! We're more or less the same height so if you're a midget, I'm a midget too lol. Love the outfit, the denim pinafore is so cute!

    www.duchessoffashion.co.uk

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    1. When I googled it I'm sure 5'3 is the average height of a woman so technically I'm not short, just average ;) haha!

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  3. You are you and you are beautiful! We all have insecurities, and accepting what we can't change is the most positive thing we can do for ourselves. You beautiful lady!

    Hayley-Eszti | www.hayleyeszti.com

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    1. Thanks lovely! So true, beating ourselves up over things we can't change will only bring us down, we need to accept ourselves for who we are!

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  4. I'm 4ft 11 which is so tiny and to be honest I don't think I'll ever not wish that I was taller :(

    Heather | Of Beauty & Nothingness x

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    1. It can be so difficult can't it! You are beautiful no matter your height lovely! x

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  5. I can relate to this soo much! I'm around 5'3 too and I feel so short compared to my friends and colleagues! I do say a lot that I'm fun sized or a munchkin haha

    franalibi.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Fun sized is my favourite way to describe my height haha!

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  6. I am also short (5'2") and I never noticed until one day when I realized that everybody else was getting taller and I wasn't. It bothered me for a few years but now I have learned to accept it. I know a ton of tall people that wish they were shorter and a lot of short people that are happy with their height. There are many benefits of being short. I don't have an issue with it anymore, it's really other people that seem to care. It bothers me that other people comment on my height and act like there is something wrong with being short. It's not me who is bothered, it's the rest of the world for some reason.

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    1. This is exactly it, you've hit the nail on the head! Height wouldn't matter at all if other people didn't think it was okay to poke fun at people over it, tall or short! It's so irritating!

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  7. I absolutely love your outfit Amy, I wouldn't pair a dungaree dress with anything other than flats! As for your height, I definitely don't think you're short at all, being a lanky, broad 5"10 girl I don't feel feminine most of the time, which is a horrible thing to feel. I am taller than a lot of men, and I have really wide shoulders so your height is my ideal! No one is ever happy with what they are, but don't let it define you, you're a beautiful girl xoxox

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  8. I'm just over 5'1" and completely agree with everything you're saying. It's taken me 19 years to love my body, and even now I know that it's a work in progress. There are some days that I'll feel great about how I look, and some days that I'll want to hide in pajamas at home. But slowly, day by day, I'm learning to accept that. Thank you for writing this!

    blushandfairydust.blogspot.com

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  9. Loved reading this post. Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, and it's amazing what we can achieve once we accept and embrace what we have. Lovely outfit too, and I swear your pictures keep getting better and better! x

    Summer, www.thetwinswardrobe.com

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  10. Loved reading this post. Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, and it's amazing what we can achieve once we accept and embrace what we have. Lovely outfit too, and I swear your pictures keep getting better and better! x

    Summer, www.thetwinswardrobe.com

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  11. I'm also 5ft 3" (2.5 but shhh...) so i can't thank you enough for this post! I also find it so helpful to see your outfit posts as it proves shorter girls CAN wear clothes and look amazing! Especially things like trousers, jumpsuits, midis etc....

    It annoys me when people make jokes; like you i can really get down about them. But i find it helps me to approach the situation with humour too, the self-described "hobbit" - we could do worse than being more like Sam Gamgee! :P Or gimlee/Dobby.. but i digress! In short, short is by no means small! xxx

    Bumble and Be

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