Saturday, 6 August 2016

What I'd Tell Fresher Me


Starting university is a tough time for anyone, no matter how confident you are or how much you can't wait to get away from home. I'm a completely different person now than when I started university the first time and there is so much I'd tell myself if I could go back in time. When you start university, you don't know what to expect; will you like it? Is it how it's portrayed on TV and in the media? Is it as good as people say it is? Here's what I would tell myself if I could.



First, I'll just mention these wonderful photos of my graduation. I much prefer the shots taken by my family on special occasions rather than the professional ones taken by the graduation photographer with the backdrop. I like natural photos that really show the memories rather than the studio ones and WallSnaps was the answer to my graduation photography prayers. It's always nice to get photos from special occasions like graduation framed and made into really special pieces, whether it's for yourself or as a gift and I got this framed box print for my mum and dad. It only costs £29.99 and is of such high quality it makes the perfect gift, especially if you like the photos taken naturally on the day like the one here taken by Karl (as usual!).

My mum and dad have just got their print stood in the conservatory for now as we're in the process of getting a new kitchen and that's yet another beauty of the box prints. They can stand like a normal photo frame or they can be mounted onto the wall to create a simple but chic interior design.

Anyway, here's what I'd tell my fresher self!

UNIVERSITY IS NOT EASIER THAN A-LEVELS.

Before I went to uni, so many of my teachers, my friends, relatives all told me that university was a breeze and that my degree would be easier than my a-levels. I have no idea what the bloody hell they were talking about because my degree was hard hard. It had 200 hours of expected reader per module for six modules plus lectures, seminars and assignments, followed by the most difficult and harshly marked exams I have ever come across in my life. Don't fool yourself into thinking that university isn't hard because it is and it's supposed to be. 

GRADUATING DOES NOT MEAN YOU WILL HAVE YOUR LIFE SORTED.

When I started university I had the standard idea that everyone has; that in three years you'll know exactly where your life is going and what job you want to do. As a recent graduate, I know that for nearly everyone that is not the case. Of course, some people do walk out of university and into their dream graduate job (or further training for their dream graduate job if you did a law degree like me) but for most of us, that's not the case. I think I just assumed you graduate, you work and that's it. Sadly, life doesn't always work as smoothly as we think it will and that's okay! We don't have to rush things and I'd tell myself not to panic about my career.


DON'T PUT TOO MUCH PRESSURE ON YOURSELF.

In hindsight, I put way too much pressure on myself while I was a student. Working three jobs and doing my blog whilst doing assignments, reading and revising for exams was probably unwise and although I'm so proud of everything I've achieved in the past three years, I think I made myself too stressed and pushed myself harder than I perhaps should have. Isn't hindsight a wonderful thing?

TIME GOES AWFULLY QUICKLY.

When you're a fresher, you think "wow three whole years of being at university" or "it doesn't matter about that decision because that's three years away." Well, those three years pass in the blink of an eye and before you know it, you're walking onto the stage to shake hands with the university chancellor during your graduation. Don't take anything for granted because before you know it, your time at university will be over and you'll be an adult *gasps*.

JUST DO YOU.

I've never been the type to conform to other people anyway and I've never been susceptible to peer pressure, even as a young child but when you go to university there is a pressure to live the typical student lifestyle and that's not me at all. Even though I never tried to be something I wasn't, at first I still had the niggling feeling in my head that I wasn't "normal" or "fun" because I didn't want to join in the things everyone else was but in hindsight (isn't it a beautiful thing?!) not joining in everything didn't make me any less happy. 

What would you tell your fresher self?

Amy x
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  1. Great post! Congratulations on graduating! You must feel amazing. I couldn't agree more with your point about not having you're shit together by the end of uni. Whilst I was lucky enough to find a job shortly after finishing, there is still the expectation that you will know exactly what you want to do and how you'll get there. That is not the case for so many, and I think it's really important that people are prepared for that, otherwise they might end up feeling pretty low about the future!

    Suitcase and Sandals Blog XX

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    1. Thanks so much lovely! Yeah it's scary isn't it, people keep asking me what I'm doing and I'm just like"....ummm!" I thought I'd have everything together by now but it doesn't work like that but it's important to remember it isn't necessarily a bad thing! xx

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  2. This is a great post! I'm a freshman in college this year. I did well on my ifrst semester, but it's so difficult! It's so much hard work, but I love it, and I feel so motivated.
    Congratulations on graduating! You're awesome.
    Obsessed Fashion Blog

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    1. It is so difficult and you've done fab to do well in the first semester! Keep going, you'll do great! xx

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  3. A big congratulations on your graduation once again, Amy! I was supposed to go to college this fall, but there was a minor glitch on the application so my parents are convincing me to go next January instead. From the start, I've never had Uni as my priority thing to do after school, but I guess I'll have to do it for the sake of my parents (and everyone else who gets on my life about it). Then again I feel as if the glitch on the application preventing me to start college is just a sign that I was never meant to go to college. Ha, maybe that's just me.

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    1. Thanks so much! Ah I hope it all works out for you lovely, I'm sure you'll do amazing if you do decide to go to college but whatever you do just make sure you're happy! xx

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  4. Massive congratulations Amy! And I have to agree with all you said. University was bloody hard. So much reading, so much stressing. I also am finishing uni soon and have no idea what's happening with my life which scares the hell outta me, but I guess we're all in a similar position and will find our way soon enough :) xx

    Jessie | allthingsbeautiful-x

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    1. Yup I think most people feel that way tbh and it's not necessarily bad - I don't want to rush into a career I'm going to hate in a few years! xx

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  5. Well done for graduating, Law sounds like such a hard degree but you got through it and that's brilliant! I'm going to be a fresher in September and I'm super nervous so this post has helped me out a lot. I'm definitely going to try not to put too much pressure on myself. Luckily I'm doing a Fashion Media & Marketing degree so hopefully that will easily coincide with my blog and give me lots of inspiration. Great post, honestly it was so helpful x

    |Georgia Megan|

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    1. Thank you so much! Ah good luck with starting uni, I'm sure you'll have an amazing experience! Your degree sounds so interesting too, definitely good to do along with your blog! xx

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  6. Great post Amy! I think it's amazing that you managed to juggle so much during your degree, props to you! I'm heading into 3rd year now (eeep!) but I'd tell my former fresher self to not feel pressured into anything - I really wasn't up for the typical fresher 'going out late & getting smashed' thing and I felt isolated and out of the loop for a while, but I definitely learned this isn't the only way to make friends - basically just relax! :) Zahra

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  7. omg loved loved this post!! :) I just finished my first year at uni and felt like you did. I was nervous at first cause I didn't know if people would like me, if I would do well in class etc
    I decided to be myself. I thought, no one knows me here so I might as well be myself from the start. If they don't like me, whatever. It turned out great. It seems like people like my dorky and weird side hehe
    Everyone tells me that these uni years go by sooo fast, that I should cherish them and that's what I'm trying to do hehe

    I'm super impressed with the fact that you were able to have sooo much going on. WELL DONE!!! :)

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    Xoxo Jessy

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  8. In a years time I will be becoming my 'fresher self' if I get accepted to the places I want to go, honestly I have no idea if I'm going to go or not. I feel like I would love the environment of living alone and being independent but I just don't know, so many questions!

    Infinity of fashion// Lucy Jane

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  9. Peer pressure is sickening
    Give your life to Jesus Christ
    www.lwf.org

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  10. Peer pressure is sickening
    Give your life to Jesus Christ
    www.lwf.org

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