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Tuesday, 12 July 2016

Soft But Strong

I've mentioned before I've got a thing about pink clothes recently so I absolutely couldn't resist this Zara bomber jacket that had gone into the sale *ka-ching!* I own way too many bomber jackets to be allowed to spend more but c'mon, look at the detailing and the fit of this one. It's the very epitome of "smart-casual" and although it's patterned it's so versatile. I've styled it with my fav skinnies and a plain white tee but I imagine it would look fab with a little black cami dress and some heels, draped over your shoulders for a night out to dinner. I just can't go into Zara at the moment and not spend money - they have so many nice things and this may or may not have been the second bomber I purchased from Zara in two weeks...(watch this space for my next one!)


Anyway, as I've gotten older I've realised that all too often, we're dismissed as being weak because we like things that are considered "soft", especially us ladies. If we like things that are considered stereotypically feminine, people automatically think we aren't going to be intelligent or that we're going to be scared of everything and scream like a damsel in distress. During my time at university when people who've read my blog have asked me what I'm studying, the surprise in their faces when I saw Law is always amusing. So many people assume that because I like fashion, clothes, make-up and other "girly" things, that I'm not going to be intelligent enough or strong enough to study something like Law and although so much of this kind of judgement is unconscious, it's still totally wrong.

Yes, I like make-up and yes, I feel terribly guilty when I accidentally step on a snail and yes, I cry at Dobby's death every time I watch Harry Potter (but let's be honest, only heartless monsters wouldn't) but that doesn't mean I can't be strong. It doesn't mean I'm shy or quiet or that I won't call people out for being shitty or that people can speak to me like I'm beneath them because let me tell you I bloody well can stand up for myself and I am certainly not weak even though my skinny stick arms can't even manage a press-up. I see fellow bloggers talk about politics and social issues and you can absolutely guarantee there'll be someone who disagrees who'll say something along the lines of "this is just stupid, go back to writing about make-up and clothes." I just want more people to realise that being soft and being strong are not mutually exclusive so I'll just leave you with a Jess quote from New Girl.

"I brake for birds. I rock a lot of polka dots. I have touched glitter in the last 24 hours. And that doesn't mean I'm strong and tough and smart."

Amy x

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  1. cutest gold shoes
    new post

  2. Love your whole look! Great style!


  3. Saw this bomber in the sale as well and was itching to pick it up, you rock it beautifully Amy!

    Kelly Knows It | A life & style blog

  4. I've been obsessed with bomber jackets all summer! Love the rose gold heels too, they look very elegant.


  5. I was about to buy that bomber but didn't end up buying it! Regretting it now as it looks so good on you. x


  6. Adore this post! So inspiring, I totally agree with every word! On a different note, I cannot get enough of your style, I love every outfit you put together! x

    ellie etc | a personal style & lifestyle blog

  7. Love the detailing and the colour on this bomber jacket! Also I completely agree, just because I like makeup and fashion, it doesn't mean I'm an airhead or a weak person. When people ask me what my blog's about I almost feel embarrassed to say beauty as I know they'll judge me for it, but just because my blog is a creative outlet for that, it doesn't mean I don't care about politics or the terrible things currently going on in the world. Soft and strong definitely aren't mutually exclusive! :) x
    Charlotte's Road

  8. La Bijoux Bella | by mia12 July 2016 at 14:14

    Simply beautiful! :)

    La Bijoux Bella | by mia

  9. omg word. Just because we are interested in feminine things does NOT make ups bimbos or dumb! People are shocked that i major in engineering and do a masters in technological management, but hey we girls can be great at "smart" things and still freaking love pink fashion and unicorns just the same. pft.

    P.S. Love LOVE love that pink bomber! and loving the gold shoes you paired it with :)

    xx, Carina | Blog | YouTube

  10. The jacket is so pretty!


  11. That bomber jacket is dreamy, so gorgeous, I love all the detailing! x


  12. so amazing look ; -)))

    i invite to me too


  13. I love the shoes and bag! <3 And I also love and completely agree with your 'rant', if you could call it that haha. I studied Accounting & Law and felt the same way. Liking and talking about clothes and makeup unfortunately does seem to imply that you couldn't possibly be studying anything so academic.. -.- In many respects though I may be a 'pathetic weak female' hahah, I am infuriatingly shy :( xx
    Nicole | Nikki Bays

  14. This jacket is STUNNING! I love the shoes as well, and completely agree with your rant! xxx

    Sam // What I Know Now

  15. Gorgeous jacket and those shoes are so gorgeous! And I totally agree with you, just because you like 'girly' things doesn't mean you're not smart and capable of great academic achievements and so on. I feel like I could have written a lot of that last paragraph, I can relate to it so much. And who doesn't cry at Dobby's death?!

    Summer, The Twins Wardrobe


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